"Good Listeners are Hard to Find"
There is no mystery about successful business intercourse...... Exculsive Attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important."There is nothing more Flattering as giving "Exclusive Attention to that or a particular individual" I?ll try to explain this through a personal experience of mine,some time ago I attended a New Years eve Party - I wasn?t drinking as I was the sober driver. A man there who by chance had the same role as I came and sat next to me, we both sat there sipping on our non alcoholic drinks in silence for ten minutes not a word spoken. As we sat there on the couch, he mentioned to his wife who happened to be passing at the time, that he felt alittle jet lagged as he had just arrived back from overseas.He Remarked to me on his trip to the Middle East. I exclaimed. "How interesting! I?ve been to several countries myself but never been there.Tell me, what on earth made you go over there?"With that one question, I kept him talking for forty minutes, I learnt his name, about his life,family,friends,and eventually he spoke of his career as an Audio Engineer,and the ins and outs of what I could only guess was a job that needed competency and intelligence.I knew nothing of what he spoke of, but I was fasinated,and I was literally sitting on the edge of my seat listening to him speak passionately about his job and his travels.He never again asked me where I had been or what I had seen. All He wanted was an interested listener,so he could expand his ego and tell about where he had been. You may ask,is that unusual? The answer to that quite assuredly is "No" many People are like that.Lincoln wrote a letter to a very good friend asking him to come to Washington,as Lincoln had problems.His friend arrived and Lincoln talked for hours over the proclamation of the freeing of slaves.He went through the arguements for and against such a move,and after he had finished, He shock the hand of his friend and sent him home without even asking for his opinion."Lincoln had done all the talking himself which seemed to clarify his mind,he seemed to feel easier after the talk,he didn?t want my advice, just a sympathetic listener to whom he could unburden himself" his friend said.If you aspire to be a good conversationalist be an attentive listener. To be interesting,be interested. Ask questions that other persons would enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves,and their accomplishments.Remember that people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves, and their wants and problems, than they are in you and your Problems. A persons toothache means more to that person than a famine in China that kills millions. A boil on your bum interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation. Never underestimate the power of a good listener for its the fastest way to influence friends. Principle #3"Be a good a listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves and their interest." Showing a genuine interest in other people can be very therapeutic for the Listener and the reciever.
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